First realize that the Ego was created by the mind as a protective mechanism.
It is and always will be part of the mind, body, spirit connection.
We can not be human without an ego, but we can weave the ego into our higher selves, through the heart meditation.
When you find yourself in the middle of emotions or actions, that no longer serve you such as:
Sadness Pride Judgement Worry Anxiety
Bring your awareness to the center of the middle of your upper abdomen, and BREATH.
This is your 3rd Chakra, move your consciousness there, as you begin to observe your thoughts and feelings. The 3rd chakra is about will and action moving through this physical world. Sense all around this area of your body with each breath.
Take long deep breaths, inhaling and exhaling through your nose. Stay here as long as you need, until you feel a shift in emotions.
Then begin to have a dialogue with your inner child. Asking him or her what are they feeling? Where is it coming from and or why are they acting in this particular way? Let it know that you hear them, honor them and now it is your turn as the Adult and connected to the higher self to protect them.
You are part of the whole now, you can begin to see your BIG self merging with this Small self within this Chakra.
Continue to Breath into this center, until the emotions are fully gone. Either eyes open or closed.
Then take your awareness embracing your inner child up into your Heart Center. It is from the heart that the Ego must now reside. For from the space of our hearts, we can develop understanding, compassion and non judgement. Place your Ego/inner child deep within the chamber of your heart.
Use this whenever you feel your words, actions are not coming from your heart. Go back into the 3rd Chakra and bring up your ego once again. Becoming the observer, and always using the breath you can become a Phoenix child raising up from any old narrative from the past that no longer serve you